Basically, sometimes when I talk to peoples, they shutdown. For instance, this morning I was discussing with one of my professor (PhD) and he said that people (researchers) who where gathering data “on the field” where not real researchers and that to be a “real” researcher you need to spend your life at a table with pen & paper. I tried to demonstrate that his pov was wrong using the example of AI, but when I had finish my last sentence, he just sat down, looked into the void for 5min and then started to use is computer as if nothing had happen. But the thing is, this kind of things happen to me all the time, I talk to people, ask them stuff and they “break”. Is there a way to fix them ? How are you dealing with this kind of situations ?
Broadly, a person can only control their reactions to situations; they can’t control others. It’s part of establishing healthy boundaries. Your scenario would be an excellent topic to bring up in therapy because it’s a real and recurring issue that probably has a lot of interesting depth to explore