Haven’t had much action lately, and I find myself spending more time on the guy/hook-up apps. Guys are way more forward on giving compliments and swapping dirty pics, and it’s giving me a huge confidence boost.

Have a date with a girl Thursday, and riding this energy who knows what might happen! Might still hook up with a fella this weekend if I strike out with her.

Do you ever do this or feel this way? I’m upfront with every guy I chat or flirt with about my bi-ness, and conditions under which we would/wouldn’t hook up. AITA?

  • scarabic@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    If you’re not even open to dating or hooking up then I’d say it’s parasitic to entertain guys just to lavish in their advances - at least by default.

    There are definitely guys who would be okay with nothing more than a really enjoyable flirtatious relationship but everyone should be clear that that’s what it is. Sadly, once everyone’s clear on that, all the fun may be taken out of it. Depends on the individuals.

    Tease responsibly!

    • dazedandconfused@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      You can check my profile posts if you want and you’ll see I’ve done plenty of hooking up too. Some of it really passionate in the moment.

  • Walt J. Rimmer@lemmy.worldMEnglish
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    1 year ago

    So long as you’re being up-front about it with everyone and you’re all on the same page, I don’t see a problem with it.

    I’m not a hook-up kind of guy, myself, so I don’t go that route with anyone. But I don’t see anything weird about it for someone who is.

  • N-E-N@lemmy.caEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Can definitely relate to this, but a lot of guys are kinda too forward for me, I don’t actually want dick picks immediately lol

    Kinda given up trying to find peeps and just kinda waiting and being open to possible opportunities as they arise

    • dazedandconfused@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      Yeah lol you’re right. Scruff seems nice, with public profiles being sfw. Otherwise some apps you get a bunch of cocks and no faces. (oops that’s my oc here lol)

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I never even am able to find women on dating apps (that match or communicate, I mean). Every woman I’ve dated or hooked up with was met IRL. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    Hook ups with dudes are pretty much guaranteed, but not necessarily confidence boosting.

  • MataVatnik@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I don’t do it explicitly for this reason, but the attention and compliments from men is definitely a nice respite from the absolute fucking headache that it is to date women.