You find someone interesting on Instagram (or Tinder/happn/Bumble if they left their IG handle there), though their profile is restricted. You add that person, which accepts you, sometimes after two or three months. You leave a private message to that person, thanking it for accepting you as a follower, and asking if it wants to talk. Then, silence. Or worse yet, exchanges a few phrases and then ghosts you out of nowhere, without explanation or if you didn’t said anything rude.
I mean, no one owes anyone anything in a situation like that, of course, but why bother opening a pathway in the first place, instead of just refusing? And if you find that other not really interesting after some conversation, though not really creepy or weird or over-the-top, why not be polite and say “look, this is not going to work, I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “this thing you said is a red flag for me, bye, take care”?
What bothers me is like, don’t we talk anymore like normal people are supposed to? Have personal connections become so disposable like that? Or am I just freaking out and perhaps just need to find out somewhere in the real world where I could bond more easily with real people?
I think it might be an instagram thing where people just want to have lot of connections so they look popular so they make an tinder account to farm more people and that thing with exchanging few messages might just be for convincing you that the person you are writing to is real human not void or bot or nowadays ai so you dont unfollow that is my theory but i dont have anything to back it
You’re not wrong at all. Normally people who have a disproportionate amount of followers and follow too few people give a few hints. In this case, however, are more “normal” profiles.