I was assigned male at birth but have increasingly started to notice over the years that other guys don’t have a big notch on either side of their torsos like I do. It’s my pelvic bone. I would go to a doctor to see what they had to say but they’ve seen me plenty of times and said absolutely nothing about being intersex and now I live in a rural conservative area and they don’t seem to diagnose the same way in hardly anything that is a conservative third rail. I just seem to have a really wide pelvis just like a female. Everything else seems male. I am a very normal weight so it’s not fat tissue - its clearly bone. I just feel gaslit over it and have been trying to gauge perceptions people have of me in my life in order to get on with things. I hate to turn to the internet but this is driving me crazy. I need something to work with, somewhere to start.
Oddities in your bones don’t really mean much. I have a 13th pair of ribs, “people” are only supposed to have 12, but there’s a lot of variability floating around.
I sort of knew but didn’t properly understand this is my early 20s. I always thought that transitioning would be easy and I put it off, since I had a fairy femme figure… Of course then I hit 25 and out of nowhere seemingly my whole torso changed shape. Really surprisingly suddenly!