So, not too long ago, I posted a little bit about advice for me and my friend Ana.

When the topic came up, Ana said she was bi, but also said she was only attracted to men? Ana also is obviously into men, and shows an interest in kissing them and dating them and doing stuff with them.

She finds women sexually disgusting and “ehh” romantically, and doesn’t have any feelings towards non-binary people, and wouldn’t do stuff with either of them as she would with men. She posted advice online to Reddit once and sent a screenshot to me. They told her she was probably straight, or bisexual heteromantic.

For a while, (at age 12/13), she also obviously liked men, and said that she was a “gay trans guy.” However, she also stated that her pronouns were she/her in real life and that she was comfortable with her gender as a girl and that she just “claimed to be a gay trans guy”.

Now that she’s 15, she’s a cis bi girl. I need advice on how to support her and understand, please. I never bring up the topic of orientation, but it is brought up between friends a lot, as well as crushes, where she mentions this stuff.

With additional information I typed, I’m still confused. Of course, I don’t gatekeep or anything and tell her she must be a certain identity, I take her word for it when she says something, but I still need to understand. I feel like asking her personally would be weird and put her on the spot.