I’m not trying to hate, so please don’t insult me or give rude advice. As a bi girl myself, I’m genuinely just trying to understand and get input from other people here respectfully.

This one girl at my school, Ana, says she’s bi because the topic came up. I told her I was too, and that’s cool and all, but what I don’t understand is that Ana also says she doesn’t really find women attractive. She’d like to be friends with them, she finds them pretty in a platonic way, but she doesn’t want to date them. There is no female character she’d be attracted to, nor a celebrity, nor anyone. Ana says she’s kinda “ehh” on women romantically.

However, Ana is very obviously attracted to men. She often has a new male crush every two weeks or so, and finds a lot of celebrities (such as actors), fictional characters, and boys at school attractive and would definitely date them.

Again, I’m genuinely confused, so if you guys could help me understand, that would be greatly appreciated. I don’t understand why Ana says she’s bi with no gender preference. At first, I could see bi with a male preference, but she told me she straight-up doesn’t see women romantically and finds them “ehh”.

  • whodatdair@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    7 days ago

    Honestly? It sounds like Anna is figuring herself out. I think maybe at this point you don’t need to 100% understand - keep in mind that Anna might not even know. I’d say don’t analyze it too hard, friendo.

    If she’s truly not into girls, eventually she’ll change her labels. But for now? I’d say be a bro and support whatever she decides to try. She’ll figure it out eventually.