I want to have children, but cannot afford them for an undetermined amount of time. Fingers crossed that we’ll have enough money someday!
3 kids here 12 and under. If you are mentally and emotionally ready for kids just do it. That’s the big secret. You will never be ready financially. Kids adapt and will be happy so long as you are stable and can provide the most important necessities like love, a roof and food.
We are both men, and my spouse is still in the process of immigrating here, hehe. I know we’ll never be financially ready, but I want him here while we navigate surrogacy (preferred, but expensive) or adoption.
We’ll figure it out!
We’ll figure it out!
Exactly. Life doesn’t wait.
If I had serious financial stress I cannot imagine also having kid stress. What if one needs serious medical attention or has special education needs?
I dunno. This seems reckless.
Granted in America yes those are concerns we don’t have to the same degree in Canada but all things considered having a kid is reckless anyways. You either adapt and make it work or you don’t.
Our experience is that basically the only really expensive thing is childcare. Are you eligible for subsidized, or free, care (or have trustworthy and willing relatives)?
As for gear, babies don’t need much. But for what they do need, reach out to friends, neighbors, and family! We’re fortunate that we could have afforded everything new, but we really only bought a few things because friends and randos alike gave us so much free kid stuff (we bought a nice stroller, a baby basket, and an IKEA crib — basically everything else was a hand-me-down). Join local “buy nothing” groups, or parent groups (sadly they’re usually WhatsApp, but whatever). Most people hate throwing away stuff, and would rather it go to a good home.
Look at programs for subsidized/free necessities like diapers. There are lots of resources out there, especially in cities.
As everyone else said, no one feels ready. We certainly didn’t!
Seconding other comments, you’ll never ever be financially ready, there will always be new concerns, but that was true for most parents. People far less intelligent and less prepared than you have figured it out and done alright.
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I’ve heard just trying to not be sad works apparently? Haven’t tried myself, but it might work. If the assholes on the Internet are to be believed.
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My mum to meet my daughter.
More than three days off this month.
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The same touchscreen gloves I got two years ago that are no longer being made. There’s three pairs on eBay and if no one buys them for me I’m buying them all for myself.
Find a pair of gloves you love and use Conductive thread sewn in an x pattern a few times. Works great.
Used to be it was hard to find touchscreen gloves. Now most gloves are touchscreen.
touchscreenis indeed the easy part
these gloves were so warm for how thin they were, that’s what made them special
I really want to know more about these gloves that have inspired this level of dedication but if you tell me about them I’m probably going to go buy them.
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My wife to stop drinking.
Oooft hope my wife wouldn’t write something like this about me. No actual drama but my routine of being a middle-class wine drinker sinking glasses in front of the tv in the evening could be considered problematic.
as long as you handle all your responsibilities, it is what it is. when I can’t communicate with my partner or have to keep asking her to handle responsibilities or have the exact same conversation every day because she can’t remember? that’s a big problem. if I can’t trust my partner, then why are we together.
man, similar boat. sometimes she can’t even stand straight without teetering, and I’m tired of fighting over it. if anything, this will be the cause to our end.
I know how people here feel about reddit, but https://old.reddit.com/r/Alanon can help you get away or communicate better possibly.
Wish I had friends to spend it with instead of a person who is abusive and swears at me every day.
Oh man that’s so sad. Based on your posts & comments you seem like a lovely person. :( I’ll be your friend!
Aww thank you. I appreciate your friendship.
A (significant) raise in salary (after tax) to invest and hopefully increase my portfolio.
The Return of the British Empire
I hear a monkeys paw rattling somewhere right now…
Shhh you might summon every K9 on the platform!
To spend xmas with my grandparents that passed away!
I have all that I can reasonably want that I could reasonably be given, so I’m making a gift instead, I’m off donating blood in half an hour, hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋
hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋
Not sure if wholesome, or wants there to be a car crash…
(I know what you mean, I just found it humorous.)
Ugh yes I worded that badly 🥲
A gift no one wants but will nonetheless appreciate?
I want real freedom. It’s basically impossible.
Freedom is free, comfort is what costs.
While I’m a huge fan of what you’re saying, I’m more about going unimpeded. Barriers really suck.
That’s easy. Just stop wanting to do the things you can’t do.
That sounds like a restriction.
A reversal of the cuts my health insurance is making and further to have all of my healthcare paid for by the insurance I pay a ton of money to have. Especially hurts since the insurance company is my employer, or at least I used to. Now they have the same parent company or whatever they call it these days.
