• NixDev@programming.dev
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    10 months ago

    Yeah one of the guys I work with has a 4-5 month old. He came back to work a few weeks ago and Mom is still on maternity leave. He made the comment that because he is working 100% of the child care is done by mom. He has to work so she can has to everything for the kid.

    I just said. Wtf and walked away. That is no way to be a father

    • HelixDab2@lemm.ee
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      10 months ago

      Kinda yes though.

      Marriage is a partnership, and both parties need to be contributing. If one person is expected to work 8+ hours a day outside of the home–plus commute, etc.–then the other person needs to be doing the things that keep the household operating. The gender of the people don’t matter; if my wife works as an attorney, and I am a househusband, that means that yeah, I’m doing the cleaning, the laundry, paying the bills, pet care, and all the other things that need to be done while she’s at work. Because housework is my job.

      • danthehutt@lemmy.world
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        10 months ago

        Yeah, what you’re saying is mostly reasonable but for the mom to do 100% of childcare is bullshit. What kind of dad is that? I personally can’t wait to hold my daughter after work and my “commute”.

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          10 months ago

          Kinda sounds like they want the fun parts like the child holding you enjoy with none of the bad parts, which I don’t think you could consider yourself a father for, more like an uncle.

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        10 months ago

        Putting toilet seat down shoud not be ‘let’s negotiate my tasks’

        That is literally on the list. And what is more cringeful is that you have a house full of kids and an open toilet of water is just asinine level of idiocy from a parent.

        That’s ‘ I shouldn’t have to wipe my own ass’ level of incompetence.