I would like to add a description (details), but it would be a very long text.

In short: I have depression, multiple chronic illnesses, C-PTSD, ADHD, no money to rent on my own, poor physical and mental health, some basic things I don’t have money for, I don’t have a computer and it seems that my laptop will soon broken…

I can’t go to a psychologist because… the quality of education and medicine in this country is terrible, and it’s dangerous to say “everything” here, my mother recently worked, but now she’s left without work and starts doing some kind of crap, she was the one who brought in the income until this time; she feeds me fast food. In this country everyone doesn’t give a sh*t about each other, I am surrounded by “broken” people, this is a country full of cynics, sociopaths, and narcissists (consider mentally ill… and genetically defective, apparently).

Like this…

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        It really depends on what you’re aiming for and what your situation is. You know that more than anyone.

        My best advice is to try and learn something you’re genuinely interested in and something the market wants. Web development for example is usually a safe bet. Try to find communities whether local or online where people share the same goal, and surround yourself with people that can help you if you get stuck or give you good advice.

        Ignore your local education if it’s not helping you. There’s all sorts of materials and free courses online for everything. Even if it’s something as simple as cooking, that can be a good goal.

        Most importantly, have patience. Learning something new will take time and effort. Finding a job too might take time, but you can do it. Many people have. I’m also in a poor third world country but managed to get a remote job after finishing college.

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    …the army of my moronic country has killed thousands of Ukrainian civilians, foreign media have been writing for a whole year that this country wants to start a war with NATO in 2025.

    I’m really sorry, I don’t know what to do… I constantly live in stress, anxiety, with a feeling of hopelessness, depression, I’m procrastinate a lot…

    Normal people, in principle, do not live in this country, and my mother does not consider me to be a person, as, in principle, most ruSSians (these mad dogs) treat each other.

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      Normal people, in principle, do not live in this country.

      They do, it’s just that like you they’ve learnt to be careful about what they say, and to be selfish because they need to survive.

      Or they once cared, but life ground them down, so they sought escape in alcohol or whatever. Obviously, this is by design. If people were open about being unhappy about their country, this would threaten the government. Not that this helps, but maybe it’ll help you feel less alone.

      I can’t help you with work, but reading, tv, gaming and podcasts can be a great help when you don’t have access to mental health services.

      Fiction allows you an escape from your daily reality. English language fiction allows you to learn the language Non-fiction allow you to work on your issues. Not as good as therapy, but better than nothing. If concentrating on long texts is a problem, try listening to audiobooks.

      Eg. a good book about PTSD is The Body Keeps the Score.

      Oh, and obviously get a VPN and pirate everything, even if it’s for your own safety.

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        The book you recommended is about PTSD, but not a C-PTSD, so I think if it’s make sense…

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    In your situation I would probably try to learn programming.

    • You can start at home, little entry barrier
    • resources are found online
    • good programmers have huge income potential including internationally
    • are and will be in demand for the foreseeable future (with AI on the horizon maybe not as they are used now, but truly savvy people will be needed 100%)
    • if you manage to write something useful on your own you can possibly license it out and generate income that way
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        He has one that might break soon ish, but getting a cheap basic computer together is really somewhat affordable, and I would say the best feasible option for someone in that position:

        Physical labor is out of the question, getting employed for something else requires prior qualification that he doesn’t have. The mental health issue will make of additionally difficult to be perceived as reliable.

        So the best course of option is to either up his qualifications or go in business for himself, both would be (more) feasible this way.

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    Enlist in your military and deploy to Ukraine, then while there find and kill your own commander. If you do this, you will have legitimately contributed a net positive to the world. Fuck the Russian military and government, it’s a corrupt and unfixable shit stain on what is a beautiful country and culture.

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      I just looked, Russia is in 11th place in terms of the number of suicides (Wikipedia), no?

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        Your country is known for under reporting to the severity of the suicide crisis your generation is having from your equivalent of your baby-boomers and oligarchs grifting from your countries corrupt social programs. If you need someone to talk to, I have your back though.

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    Skills are just a development of a thing you practice. Get good at something you have some love for. Things like programming, mathematics, interpretation are very valuable things to be competent with, and can develop into many useful skills. But anything can be useful, if you practice it enough. Some things, usually art-centric skills tend to be a lot more difficult to use to earn money in my experience.

    But take this advice from a former slacker: apply yourself to something and you’ll be rewarded.

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    I’ve read the post and guessed the country right. Hello, fellow inmate. Sorry you share this faith.

    Coding is a good investment in the future, you can read most sources on it too, so you are set. But that takes a lot of resilence to keep on going. I have many troubles with that, and I’m not well in the head too.

    There are many little factories and businesses around that hire with a little to no experience and pay you hard cash. I’d consider that in order to fall from the radar. No medical bonuses but like they are worth it. It would occupy you and bring you a starting budget.

    After getting some trust in yourself, you can try asking around other places. Shops are good too and they are constantly hiring. People also work in apps, but I’ve not heard anyone getting it big on them.

    Freelance is another way, but you need skills. Writing works for others, doing arts on demand, checking items on e-shops, whatever. These pay peanuts, but generally easy to start if your hands know the tools.

    If anything, get some way to distract youself would worth it too. People (the cooler ones), media, charities, hobbies. They are what keeps me going in spite of anxiety.

    Also, some psychotherapists seem to work and be open, but you need locals who used them tell which ones since that’s a total hit-and-miss. Investigating VK groups can be a start. Expect it to be a private and paid one though. And more chances in big cities, obviously.

    Переживи деда, друг.

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        Yes, and Telegram too. But there you can probably find a more relaxed market for local rent and psychologists with proofs. Avito, others, are filled with real businesses pretending to be individuals, and is sure to share information to services too. I don’t think you can get any such service without either leaking a bit of your data or knowing the server personally through a couple of handshakes.