Tracked@sopuli.xyz to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 2 days agoTo the girls here: what action or social behaviour/etiquette you think you can get away doing/not doing that you couldn't if you were a man?message-squaremessage-square168fedilinkarrow-up11arrow-down10
arrow-up11arrow-down1message-squareTo the girls here: what action or social behaviour/etiquette you think you can get away doing/not doing that you couldn't if you were a man?Tracked@sopuli.xyz to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 2 days agomessage-square168fedilink
minus-squareTracked@sopuli.xyzOPlinkfedilinkarrow-up0·2 days agoI really… REALLY, disagree, as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good
minus-squarepapertowels@lemmy.onelinkfedilinkarrow-up0·2 days ago as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good Generally speaking, this is a problematic philosophy. It’s all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out. Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you’re coming from if you bring them up when apologizing. “My bad, I didn’t know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ” “Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping” hits very different from “This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you’re still upset 🙄” In fact, if you say the latter you’re saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more? Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.
I really… REALLY, disagree, as long as you don’t have bad intentions it’s all good
Generally speaking, this is a problematic philosophy.
It’s all good if you have no bad intentions as long as you apologize when called out.
Good intentions do not give you a free pass, however they do help others understand where you’re coming from if you bring them up when apologizing.
“My bad, I didn’t know about that, growing up it was always okay to do XYZ”
“Sorry I made it more stressful for you, I thought I was helping”
hits very different from
“This is ridiculous, I had good intentions and you’re still upset 🙄”
In fact, if you say the latter you’re saying you have good intentions, but how good are those intentions if you refuse to help accommodate more?
Some understanding and clear communication will do a lot to smooth the axles of the world.