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  • elfpie@beehaw.org
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    3 months ago

    Please, don’t feel like we are piling on you. I personally would say you came as a positive disruption, but making sure this is a safe space is a big priority and that means even discussions filled with good intentions have to be careful. You should check tildes for comparison.

    Now about forums and chat rooms. Chat rooms never felt really personal to me, but I could never socialize with a lot of people at the same time well. Forums, 20 years ago, were a space I inhabited frequently. Deeper context for me was knowing who I was talking to because I had read their posts and comments in the past. We engaged ideas, but we considered people as well. Of course, not every discussion was the same, with some more abstract than others.

    I have been seeing your posts for the past week. They feel very personal, but your approach feels detached, academic. Try being more conversational, asking questions and being interested. For instance: What brought you here? Why do you post? What do you expect to offer and get? Ideas, opinions, experiences? Educate people, get collaboration for your ideas, someone to challenge and strength them?

    I truly believe our mods want to be accepting, but their role is also to maintain peace by guiding and reminding we all of our philosophy.

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      3 months ago

      I’m autistic, I’ve been called “detached and academic” my whole life, if you are inclusive how about you try including how I like to communicate instead of treating my existence like a problem to be fixed

      what makes you think attacking me how I interact makes me want to interact more closely?