• Pandantic [they/them]@midwest.social
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    4 months ago

    Where did I say you were a failure? I am just trying to help. But it seems, as angry as you come off on the internet, you are happy with all the things you listed as detrimental to having a partner, which is fine. It’s just so odd that someone so opposed to having a relationship because they are happy with they way they are would even get so involved in a discussion on relationships with no real experience on the topic.

    Though I will say, that the fact that you don’t want to improve yourself at all would be a red flag against me dating you. I believe that we should strive to improve ourselves every day - to become better people than we were before - because when you stay the same, you stagnate, which is not beneficial to your health or mental wellbeing.

    Anyway, have a great life, good luck! I hope you get everything you deserve in life! ✌️

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            4 months ago

            You are a defeatist because you are unhappy and unwilling to do anything about it.

            And that’s the last I’m saying. I just can’t bother with someone who wants to keep talking like the world is the way it is and there’s nothing you can do to change it.

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              4 months ago

              There’s nothing that I can do about it dude. Is my reality and my soul, my nature. You just exist, i won’t change myself into something I don’t wanna be.

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                  4 months ago

                  Changing your environment is a middle class luxury, do you think poor people have the luxury of “start over again” moving and stuff, that bs is from your Hollywood movies.

                  I live with my family in a middle size apartment ffs. There’s no start over. There’s no ✨ change your environment ✨ I’m unemployed and poor. And that won’t change even if I had a job.

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                    4 months ago

                    It would certainly help. “Change your environment” doesn’t necessarily mean “move”. Getting a job counts. Surrounding yourself with people who have healthy thought patterns counts. Redecorating your room counts.