Had a homeless guy get right in my face and shouted UGLY!
I know that probably has more to do with his life than mine, but it’s hard not to take it personally and wonder if it’s what everyone else is too polite to say.
It’s, as you have already said, most likely an emotional issue on his side.
There is no such thing as “the beauty standard”.
Well, yeah. I agree beauty is a flawed, racist, social construct that is just societal opinions in bulk. But money is also a fake social construct that has very real affects on everyday life. We can deconstruct the term “beauty” all night, but that doesn’t change the lived reality of being called ugly having a real, genuine, hurtful effect on my self esteem.
My husband recently said that I had a nice ass when I was younger, but currently it’s “just something that happens to some women when they get older.” I’m 40.
Did you tell him you preferred when his balls didn’t leave drag marks on the floor
In real life or…? I’m insulted pretty much daily on here by some dipshit or another. In reality? Less. But as a queer person living in an area full of conservatives I overhear “faggot” said a lot. Generally not at me, but it’s still offensive and it makes me uncomfortable being around people who yell it at random people on the street as they drive by.
My mother told me that she hated me. After a really dumb argument we had, as adults. I still talk to her and play nice in front of our siblings but I haven’t forgiven her and I don’t think I ever will. I lost a lot of love for my mother in a single day and then nothing anyone has said to me since has ever matched or beaten that feeling. How do you trump your own mother hating you? She moved on like she never said it. No apologies. Never mentioned it. You can call me every name and slur and hang me for all my fuckups and oddities, but you can’t hurt me. I’m already at 0 HP emotionally
Oof. Mine wrote me in a letter that she wasn’t my mother anymore. Later pretended she never meant it. 20 years pass. Then she writes me a message saying I ruined my kid’s life. I cut contact then. I still miss the friendly mom she sometimes was.
When I was told to get lost and go back to China because the pandemic reliefs were for the fellow countrymen.
Are you from China? Anyone who managed to escape that country should be praised, not told to go back.
Not China, but you know the rest… like that Laotian character from King of the Hills who gets asked “So you’re from China or Japan?” everytime.
I told my first ever girlfriend (after several months of being together) that losing my virginity with someone I cared about was something important for me and she told me to “go find a whore”. Now, I sure wasn’t the most mature person in the world at the time, but that response hurt in a way I don’t feel was warranted.
I used to be less-than-feeling-bothered about how a lot of people feel about my asexuality, I always thought it was just a simple hiccup in the science community, but over time let’s just say the revelations have sunk in as disheartening. I’ve been a pariah because of it, it’s the most common talking point when I see people jab at me, and even amongst acquaintances I’m told they’re dismissive of anyone saying they’re asexual.
Psychiatrists have told me it’s a flaw of mine, family members would think of me suspicious for it, and when I later found out the acquaintances of mine (who I still consider friends to an extent) are into Jordan Peterson (you probably know where this is going), I though “maybe I can paraphrase this great genius in their presence to help my case”, only to realize he is no genius and actually champions the idea of asexual dismissal. Pardon my French, but how hard is it to effing say “intimacy is NOT a given?”
Up until recently, asexuality hasn’t had any widespread slurs, but the label “worthless” really does it when you want a deep connection just like everyone else. Recently however, some slurs have developed, though for obvious reasons you’ll have to look them up, as this is Lemmy.
Weird how sex is simultaneously taboo and expected of people.
How does exactly Jordan Peterson dismiss asexuality there?
He is asked by someone self defining as asexual: how can I do to have kids, I have not felt sexual connections but want to create children with my wife.
Then he answers the questions, like “hey, if you really wanna do this, you can try this steps. Also, you can explore if you are really asexual (see, he acknowledges there asexual exists) or if maybe it has roots on something else, and you should explore that as well”
How is that dismissing, did I miss something?
If it is because something in the lines of “well, you cannot tell people they maybe arent what they identify as” then Ok i guess. I don’t agree, I think a professional should explore all possibilities, especially when it is generaring discomfort to someone (as is the case with the person asking), but that’s just my opinion.
If it’s not in that line, I may have missed something.
When an ex told me she didn’t think I had ambition, because she was getting a degree and I chose not to go back to school.
Fast forward, I have a very successful and fulfilling career, and I believe she never used her degrees. Whoops.