Childhood has zero freedom. Also its can be emotionally excrutiating if you rolled bad rng and got shitty parents.
Adulthood is just wage slavery.
Being old is just dementia and suffering from a lot of diseases.
What the hell? This game sucks 0/10
I wanna play this game respawned as a cat, with a faithful human servant of course.
Up until now it was my student time, though I think this depends on personal circumstances and is different for everyone. Childhood was nice, but obviously limited in terms of freedom. Teens where decent, but not 100% great. Student life was easily the best for me, I’d constantly meet like-minded people, there were so many cheap or free activities, and people constantly said shit like “you guys are our future” etc. I also loved having well defined work and goals, limited scope, and lots of depth and interesting challenges. Now that I’m working it’s usually very shallow work in terms of complexity, but with lots of communication and interdependencies. And it goes ever on because agile, no clear quartile or semester goals like university.
Now that I’m working I have the money, but I lost the easy access to like-minded people and fun activities. Organizing something with friends turned from “let’s grab a drink this afternoon” into “let’s align our agendas to find a free spot somewhere in 6 weeks”. And programming turned from “here’s a algorithm someone came up with that you can implement” to “the customer wants this button to do X, hi spend the next week implementing/testing/finding out its meant to work differently”.
I’m a bit biased though, because I’m currently burnt out. Work life was decent for a bit, it just temporarily got worse and kinda pushed me over the edge. If anyone has tips I’d love to hear them :3
you missed teens. old enough to be free from wage slavery young enough to get away with murder.
get away with murder
fuck, I should’ve gotten a free increase in KDR, now I’ll forever be known as 007 (0 kills, 0 assists, have 7 Adverse Choldhood Experiences)
How do you know about that? I was very careful!!
Always the present because that’s all I can experience
So far for me it has been from 40ish on.
Agree on childhood, mine wasn’t bad really but I hated the absolute lack of freedom.
Early adulthood is poverty and struggle, and anger is closer to the surface.
30s were the worst for me, raising kids was nice but I was stressed all the time, ALL the time, and also didn’t realize how much birth control pills were messing with me.
Early 40s, wow. Sex drive like a teenager but so much more opportunity to use it. Probably nature aiming for some reproduction before cutting it off but WOW. Felt good physically, and almost certainly my best looking years were mid 40s, underweight but tall, I love the look, so felt attractive too.
50s so far probably my most comfortable years. Nothing hurts, still some financial stress but kids grew up great, better relationship , it’s mostly just work, exercise, fewer responsibilities I’d say. Certainly an easier time emotionally - don’t get mad as easy.
Stay in shape and hang on. I can’t say it WILL get better but will say it CAN get better. It has for me. And it’s been kinda nice to have it come later.
The space stage.
We’re talking about Spore, right?
We should all get a restart phase where we have a young body again but 50+ years of life experience.
For me, it was highschool. I had a great group of friends, almost everyday my cousins and friends would be visiting. Some days I had 4-6 people all visiting me. Mom and dad were happy and healthy. I didn’t need money so I didn’t care I was broke. I was in love with a beautiful person who I still think about.
Now, in my 20s, I stay in my one bedroom apartment that costs more than my paycheque and I haven’t seen a human face in almost a week.
Death
The years I see my good friends more often are always the better years.
Things for me have been improving from mid 20s onward. Each year better than the last imo.
I come from a pretty privileged background, both parents were medical professionals, and I’m a white male. I think my parents did a good job of raising my siblings and I, and our grandparents were very involved and we saw extended family a lot. For me childhood was good but i feel like it was a different mix of freedoms more so than a lack of freedom like you say.
I feel like a lot of people like their early 20s more, but it sort of sucked for me. Underemployed, but much of the issues I had with my college and early 20s was due to the collision of guard rails dropping away and undiagnosed adhd. Things have been improving ever since my wife and I started enmeshing our lives more, dividing tasks based on strengths.
I’m in my late 30s now, and my body feels better than in my early 20s, as I had stopped working out during that time. Also ended up getting diagnosed for adhd in my mid 40s and just this year had vyvanse prescribed which has proved a huge help. The funny thing about it is that I didn’t notice it working. What I did notice was when I forgot to take it. I had grown used to less chaos in my thoughts, so that made it clear it was working after allI’m in my late 30s now, and my body feels better than in my early 20s, as I had stopped working out during that time. Also ended up getting diagnosed for adhd in my mid 40s and just this year had vyvanse prescribed which has proved a huge help.
How old are you? What is this? I worry I am engaging with an AI here or something.
Sure thing bub
I like the part I’m living in now, despite the difficulties, since it is the part I can experience and change.
But can you really change it?
What if Eternalism is true, what if the past, present, and future already happened?
I mean some scientists say that.
What if there is no free will?
vsauce theme intensifies
Id say mid 20s to 30s. At least, thats the age people seem happiest around me.
For me everything after childhood seems to be the best part of life, because after you grow up you finally can make your life the way you want and if you have enough strength you can make it absolutely wonderful.
Childhood can be cool too but only if you happen to be born to a good family.
If you got bad rng and bad parents then you also are fucked as an adult. Imagine being in the 30th storey of a building with no fundament…
Anyways this question can’t be answered objectively because everyone has their own experiences and was shaped by them differently.
You say children have no freedom, but they can actually be quite free, care free and innocent.
You say adults are wage slaves, but forget you also have some freedoms here and there such as getting small things and building deep emotional conectioms to others.
Being old can be also quite freeing… there is a reason why sexual disseases are soaring to the roofs specially with old people. Yes, grandpa and grandma do it quite wildly…
That said personally I like the current me the best. Not doing great, but chosing to work on myself. So I go for adulthood.
You say children have no freedom, but they can actually be quite free, care free and innocent.
Lol
Okay time for my wall of text:
My parents were busy all the time. My childhood basically comprised of being either (1) in school or (2) stuck at home with my older brother (and since we are both minors, we aren’t allowed to go outside, I mean its not like I’d dare to go outside without a trusted adult) or (3) was stuck in some afterschool program, because its actually illegal to leave kids at home, and my mother thought I’d learn English better (because we are immigrants) if I was forced in a school environment. I mean I guess so, but I also got bulled a lot. I was almost always the last one to get picked up by my parents, like fucking 6:30 PM or something (yes they run afterschool programs to from normal dismassal time until 6PM). I’m not gonna blame my parent for it, they’ve got work, but still, this fucking economy ffs, or (4) in summer, they’d put me in fucking summer programs running from like 7AM to fucking 6PM holy fucking shit dude. (well i can’t remember if thise summer programs dismiss at 3PM or 6PM, but either way, its fucking hell).
I never had a friend, not even much “aquaintances”. I kinda just felt alone in a massive crowd. My English got better, but I also kinda had PTSD from my older brother’s abuse that I sort of have anxiety and distrust people, and that combined with me not understanding the language for like the first 2 years or so, I kinda got used to be in silence.
For like 4 years, most of my waking hours were at some sort of school thing. Alone, well not alone alone, but nobody really want to talk to me. Even ABCs would bully me. Wtf. But also I don’t speak enough Mandarin to be friends with new immigrant kids who were from like Sichuan or something. So I kinda felt so… idk… like socially ostricised, belonging to neither groups.
I know this doesn’t apply most people, but I guess I just got bad RNG. 🤷♂️
Hey bro, I am really sorry you went through that and I really hope you are getting help the you need and are working on your traumas even if it’s fricking hard.
I don’t want to make this into a dick meassuring contest on who had it worse, but I was also held inside by my parents my whole childhood and teenage years. I was lucky enough to have an alcoholic father (who was drinking away the sorrows of his abbusive childhood) and a manipulative, helicopter mum (who was over compensating the fact that she was never loved by her mum). And yeah as a kid I was beat up so often I even developed strategies against it (putting toys in my pants so I would feel the belt that hard). Every lunch / dinner I would be yelled at, telling me I was lucky I was not abandoned, how stupid I was, how I was a waste of space from my drunk dad while my mum said nothing. As a teen once I was taller than my mum and beating wasn’t an option anymore my mum would pull all the plays from the manipulation book to keep my dancing on the palm of her hands (she even tries it today, even if she lives like 1000km away from me.) She used my own chronic illness for so long as ways for manipulation… to keep me inside… boyyy there are so many things she uaed as a form of manipulation. TLDR my brother has dysfunctional depression, PTSD and has given up. My sister has burnout depression due to the PTSD, ah is still fighting. I have functional depression and PTSD from my childhood and am still fighting. (My parents really out did themselves 3 of 3 mentally fucked by our up bringing).
Still, that doesn’t change the fact that childhood can be pretty good if you are not dealt a shitty hand and there is everywhere some kinda brightside at any point and age you are at in life. I’ve gotten to know people that have had a shittier childhood than me and I’ve gotten to know people that had it way better than I had it. I’ve gotten to know inspiring people that got over their childhood trauma and other mental illnesses and people that gave up. Healthy people and people that act as if they are healthy. That’s why I personally chose adulthood in the answer earlier. Because as an adult I realized I can work on things. I’m pretty lucky I got a good therapist I can work on my past on and yes, there were time I did not want to go to therapy because we are going through some deep wounds… it may have felt awefull at first but it’s getting better and better…
PS. I hope you seek yourself help and find the kind of help you need. And yes it may hurt at first but the pay off is incredible. Stay strong.
Every year is my favorite year! At 55, I’m pretty fucking happy! Adult kids call, text, and visit, but don’t live with me. I just moved into a smaller house. Retirement is just a few years away.
I’m 57. I lost my job and had to move abroad to find another. Lost my house in the process, now paying rent that’s triple my old mortgage. Menopause is an absolute nightmare. I won’t have a pension because the country I was born in has take it away because I moved abroad and the country I live in now won’t be giving me a pension.
Anyhow, I loved being a student and student life.
Off topic but MHT was a lifesaver for me, and it’s safer to start it as early as you can so maybe talk to your doctor.
Seconding this! I’m in perimenopause and started HRT this summer. It’s made a pretty big difference so far!
I will probably be onboard with this once I reach that age.
Childhood: No freedom.
Teens: Awkward.
20s: Freedom but broke.
30s: Responsibilities.
40s: This is where I’m at, and things have loosened up greatly to the point where I have time and money to do what I want.I can’t help but think that my 40s is going to be more focused on hoarding money so I can be “done” with work. Fortunately I don’t think I’ll be devoting the entire decade to it, but a good half of it.
