Being poor will do that.
Liking the destination or specific people you’re with really has to outweigh the crowds, the effort and the cost to be remotely worth it and that’s exceedingly rare.
Occasional game nights/potlucks with friends and family though can be nice.
Every time I go out.
Last Sunday. A friend asked me to go with him to town, normally I say no but I figured I would just because I usually don’t.
We went to town and went to a store. As we were about to leave, his truck wouldn’t start. (The starter was fried.) Ended up having to walk a mile and a half to his nephew’s place, then got a ride back to my friend’s truck, towed it to his brother’s shop, and after borrowing some tools I ended up pulling the starter off a car in the middle of a field, and installing it in his truck so we could finally head back home.
What was supposed to be an enjoyable hour or so ended up taking most of the afternoon and I ended up covered in oil and mud and sore as hell by the time I finally got back to my house.
An afternoon wrenching after a short adventure with my buddies sounds like a day well spent to me.
If it was planned out and some beer was involved it would have been a lot better IMO… I had already spent the entire morning mowing my buddy’s yard and trimming trees for him, so my batteries were already low before all that happened.
You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you’re not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.
Not sure if I am but thank you, I always try to help anyone who needs it. My buddy is terrible at fixing things, so I’ve been doing a lot of work for him and his mom.
i’m usually not very aware of my own mental state but there have been at least two times where my brain has just clicked into “we need to go home” mode and i’ve stood up and left in the middle of a conversation. makes me wonder how many times i’ve missed that queue and become grumpy as a result. i know at least one time where i basically just couldn’t muster the effort to emote anymore and basically shut down.
Good on you for identifying that as a pattern. Could help you listen to the signs before it comes to shutting off emotionally - must be taxing after all
At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What’s the point?
This is the THE most terminally online dork response I’ve ever seen.
I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass to me
That’s fine. I even somewhat agree with you. However, acting like you are above doing what millions of people enjoy is some real dork shit.
Why would you ever go to parties with shitty music? The goal is to go to parties where the djs are good and playing music you like.
The parties with shitty music where everyone is getting shitfaced are for hooking up, that’s the primary goal for those and for the people that attend them. If that’s not your goal you’re obviously not gonna enjoy it.
If you want to go out to dance to good music, there’s also parties for that, where people might drink but no one is getting shitfaced. People might be getting high in other ways, but still, no one is getting shitfaced.
And idk, is it really crazy to understand why human beings, a species that evolved for millions of years to be the most social species outside of insects, would enjoy going to social events…?
You might just be ND, and that’s fine. But it’s really like 0 brain effort to try to understand this.
I literally answered the post question, i don’t know why you got so passionate about this. Read my other comment if you’re curious, i enjoy different social events…
Omg 🤓
Nope. I usually think “I should go out more” and then when I’m still recovering two days later I think “Ah, this is why I don’t go out more.”
Yep. It’s somewhat ingrained in UK culture, at least for people of my gen. I’m 48 this weekend, and plan on staying in with my fam and maybe having a few beers. But that’s only because I’m off for a city break with friends next week to see The Beta Band and basically eat and drink for 2 days. Can’t wait.
relevant (?) Bill Watterson
And when you look at your bank account the next day
Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
If I don’t look at my account online, does it even really exist?
If an empty bank account is unobserved, is it truly empty?
The amount of money I don’t have remains the same, does it not?
Banks charging you for not having enough in your bank account, then “protecting” you from that overdraft for 40 dollars tells us an empty bank account contains approximately -100 dollars.
Yep, I always try to keep it going a 2nd day too extending my hangover to a week
It’s because you live somewhere built for cars and not for people.
Ohh yes, but usually at event stuff because of the crowd and noise, and parking if i drivin.
But 100% of the time it’s when i go for a movie, it’s too cold if there’s no crowd, too noisy and 80% chance of people kicking my seat if full. I pay money to have my experience soured by either the venue or peoples. No thanks.
I’m queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
“Am I the only black person around here?”
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
“Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?”
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez…
Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the ‘Hate them… not you though, you’re one of ours’ mindset.
“Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he’s alright.”
“We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me ‘boss’ when I go in.”
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
Funny but relevent:
No idea if you already know these places (you probably do) but The Cobblestone, Peader Brown’s, and McDowells are all great pubs that are perfectly happy serving a drink to anyone of any orientation.
Sorry for the bother if you already know.
Those places are lovely, of course I know then - I’m from there :D
Fair play to you :)
Yes. And I don’t entirely understand why most other people don’t.
No. I rarely go out, so I cherish every time I do. I have young kids and the dollar doesn’t go as far as it used to.
I’m so glad I’m here I can’t wait to leave
I try to avoid going out at annoying times - e.g., rush hour, school zones, restaurants on a Friday or Saturday night. That helps a lot.
Not any more.
Once and a while I go to the Movies and often end up asking why I thought it was a good idea to pay exorbitant prices for the 30 mins of mixed ads/previews, all for a cliche plot of yet another reboot. Which inspires me to not go to the movies for another 6 months or year, and just go for a run outside.
