I love kids, however, with the current situation of our planet and the inhabitants of it, no more. I just hope that our youngest will be able to grow up and live a full life. Shit is going downhill at an accelerated rate.
No kids. I love having money and the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want.
I never want kids. I don’t know how they’re going to take the news.
My wife had my first when I was 39. I wish I had had kids sooner. I love going to minor hockey games and taking to my daughter about her crafts and school.
I’ve known from a pretty early age that I never want kids. Don’t get me wrong, I actually love kids. At social events I’ll often be the one entertaining them, and I can’t wait for my friends to start having kids so I can be the cool & fun babysitter.
However, kids are dreadful roommates, I’d be a horrible parent, I don’t want to bring a living being into this cruel world (especially with climate change), I’m too poor for children, and, being non-binary, parenthood just seems so tied down to gender norms I don’t adhere to.
I would probably be a mom by now if I could be, not because I want to be but due to regular happenstance, but with everything I face and everything having kids could add to that, I don’t trust myself as one, with both bad genetics and a fear of imbuing a bad childhood at play.
You’re asking a bunch of post lonely redditers, all your gonna get is child free posting to cope with them not having a relationship
Expensive and bad for the planet.
This is a complicated question. I hate kids. Multiple. They are loud, dumb. But when there’s only one kid, I actually really like interacting with them! It’s so much fun to forget who I am for a moment and play games with a kid! I love teaching new things to them and seeing them try them out.
I will only “have” a kid when the conditions are ideal. That being, finacially stable and away from my family. I do not want them to corrupt the kid’s mind with their religion bullshit. A partner for me is not neccesary. I also plan on adopting a kid rather than making one. Infant or a kid? I’m uncertain.
My mom said once that if everyone waited until their life was perfect to have a kid, that was the end of humanity. There is never a perfect time.
With all due respect, I disagree. As long as people that are uneducated on sex exist there will always be children born. And there will always be uneducated people around. So we are covered on that.
I think what your mother implies by her words is that no one’s life will be perfect. I’m an optimistic person so that is total bullshit to me. What I’m asking for is far from perfection. I really do not think being financially stable/independent and being away from my parents is a lot to ask for.
I’ve known since I was young that I don’t want any. This was only reinforced after I adopted a kitten last year, regretted it to the point of depression after about 2 months, and adopted him off to someone else who I trust. I realised I absolutely don’t ever want that kind of responsibility again so a human life would be infinitely worse of an idea. this is on top of terrible genetic health issues that I wouldn’t want to force onto another existence.
It was bad enough to have to get through the world of children and especially teenagers once. I have zero desire to ever watch and accompany someone else having to go through that hell.
Oh my God I would never want to BE a kid again, it was a nightmare. But my kids say they enjoyed it ok, and weren’t as uncomfortable as I was. Maybe it skips a generation.
I took care of younger siblings, I got my taste of changing diapers, feeding, early years educating, schedule management, being “on” 24/7 for emergencies. No thank you. For me personally, being a mom with the typical gendered expectations would be a pile of hot trash with absolutely no upside.
I wish I could have a kid. But I’m a virgin at 35 without a job and still living with my mother. It ain’t going to happen.
I’m not quite the same demographic as you, but I get it.
For me, it’s simply not possible to have kids unless I adopted. And that ain’t happening (adoption is a long, arduous, and expensive process and I’m only one person…wouldn’t want to take that alone). I suppose technically my body might physically be able to produce kids…I haven’t tried, but that’s missing the point.
People sometimes ask me if I want kids and it’s just such a silly question for someone like me. It’s like asking if I had a mega mansion, how would I decorate the 7th bathroom? What I want is irrelevant because that’s not at all in the realm of possibility.
I don’t know if I would want kids or not. But since it’s not possible, it’s not worth dwelling over.
Absolutely no kids ever even if I wasn’t gay or had ability to adopt. I don’t remember my childhood positively at all, I think my parents should’ve never decided to have kids, and despite me trying hard to not be like them, I found myself making similar mistakes. I don’t understand people being so obsessed about having kids and saying stuff like “wait until you got ur own”, I’m like bitch it’s not happening ever unless it’s a nightmare I wake up all wet after with relief that it’s not real
I can’t fathom why anyone would want to have kids. Not for me.
