Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.
How did the age and subjective dating quality of men change as you did, either through age, gender, or other physical changes? Do you get MORE attention now?
How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?
Interesting that you still internalize the pressure. Maybe that’s a result of how much women are guided to be objects of sexual interest from youth?
As a guy, I can dress as poorly as I want and not feel less manly because of it. I will still feel stigma about class and stuff, though.
I’ve definitely heard that being old is liberating! I hope I get there someday.