My brother’s a few years younger than me and I’m his older sister. It was pretty recently I got better from a decade long illness that put me into a semi conscious and half bedbound state. I have almost no memory of that decade and now I’m adjusting. I had spent a whole year getting used to being able to eat properly again. When I was ill my classmates who I was friends with moved cities and kinda moved on so I’m back to square one and feel a bit lost. My brother and his friends are members of the same subculture I’m in.
I have 2 close friends but they’re American and it’s online, nothing in person. So I’m single and only have 2 friends who are American and who I speak to over Discord. Recently I finished therapy and the therapist told me that friendships are important. Sometimes my brother goes out with his friends (don’t know how many of them are girls but I don’t mind either way, I’m a tomboy and get along slightly better with guys) and I was wondering if it’d be weird to want to want to tag along sometimes as a start?
As the younger brother in my family, I would feel so weird if my older brother followed me if I was hanging out with my peers.
What’s the age like? 30 hanging out with 25 year olds is very different from 20 year olds hanging out with 15 year olds. The older it gets, the less weird it gets (just as with romance, its similar with friendships).
Also, if there’s even a tiny problem with your relationship with your brother, thing will get very awkward.
I know I’m against the grain here, but its just my honest opinion.
(P.S. I’m not exactly on speaking terms with my abusive older brother)
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this opinion and it entirely depends on their individual relationship. I would just warn to be conscious of boundaries and to not pressure the brother too hard on the subject. My concern would be OP shifting the burden of building a social life onto little brother as if his duty.