A ephebophile is a older adult who are sexually attracted to 15 and 19.

It really grinds my gears that society doesn’t have a problem with a 18 year old having consensual sex with a 17-year-old. Even though the 18 year old is an adult and the 17 year old is a minor. But if 26 year old has consensual sex with a 18 year old. Ah then society has a problem. But why should that be a problem? When both actions are completely harmless as long as both people are consenting adults.

  • setVeryLoud(true);@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    I think you’re stuck on the legal definition of an adult.

    Some countries have people become adults at 16, some at 18 and some at 21. 18 is meaningless beyond the laws in place and the legal punishments given to those who break the laws.

    Many other reprehensible acts are legal, such as firing people for their ethnicity or gender identity in the US, or running a payday loan scheme.

    You need to look at it from the perspective of brain development and power dynamics rather than from a legal or subjective point of view.

    Intercourse with someone below your level of mental maturity is morally reprehensible due to the mental harm it may cause to the younger person, and them being unable to consent properly due to the power dynamics of the older partner having more money, more maturity, more status, etc. The younger individual may become dependent on the more mature individual, further driving the negative power dynamic.

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      4 months ago

      So if a 45 year old man has sex with a 25 year old woman you consider that to be immoral even though the are both consenting adults?

      Because I don’t care about power dynamics or maturity levels. In my opinion as long as both people are consenting adults which 18 year olds are in Canada and in most parts of the world then I do not think it’s morally wrong for me to be in casual sexual relationship with a 18 year old woman because me and her are both consenting adults. So what we are doing is completely harmless.

      I could legally have sex with a 16-year-old woman if I want to because the age of consent is 16 in canada. But I still choose not to do that because I believe it’s morally wrong for adults to have sex with minors.

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        4 months ago

        Because I don’t care about power dynamics or maturity levels.

        You do understand that what you’re saying here is that you choose to completely disregard whether something has been proven to harm others so long as it’s legal or you subjectively do not object to it?

        You’ll make a great abuser, please never go into a relationship.

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        4 months ago

        I believe it’s morally wrong for adults to have sex with minors.

        no you don’t

        Ephebophiles are not immoral

        yet…

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          4 months ago

          I said ephebophilia between two consenting adults is not morally wrong you idiot.

          If a 26 year old man is only sexually attracted to 18 and 19 year old women then by definition they’re an ephebophile you idiot.

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            4 months ago

            I said ephebophilia between two consenting adults

            but your post title is

            Ephebophiles are not immoral

            ephebophelia cannot exist between adults because