Judgemental or not, you’re not wrong. Enabling one’s anxiety will not reduce said anxiety. I knew that when I set everything up and I think about it every time I check.

But I’m physically limited (not disabled, just enough to make things harder) and my general concern about the state of my home isn’t going away, so being able to check things without getting up is an immediate comfort that sometimes lets me get back to sleep more easily, even if long term it’s damaging to my psyche.

Thank you for the apology, though it was unneeded, and the empathy.