This is most of why I’ve installed any “smart” devices in my house. If I’m up at 4am with anxiety, I can check most things that inspire it for me (are my door locks engaged, can my cameras see anything concerning, is my young kid in bed and breathing, etc.) without getting up. Some of those I can even rectify remotely; for example, I can lock my doors through the app if someone forgot to.
As a result, I’ve developed a new thing about which to worry: what have I forgotten to check?
I hope that didn’t sound too judgemental. I can’t imagine the pressure of dealing with that kind of anxiety plus the responsibility of a child. Sometimes we lose focus of what’s in front of us over what’s in our head when it should be the other way around.
Judgemental or not, you’re not wrong. Enabling one’s anxiety will not reduce said anxiety. I knew that when I set everything up and I think about it every time I check.
But I’m physically limited (not disabled, just enough to make things harder) and my general concern about the state of my home isn’t going away, so being able to check things without getting up is an immediate comfort that sometimes lets me get back to sleep more easily, even if long term it’s damaging to my psyche.
Thank you for the apology, though it was unneeded, and the empathy.
Good reminder actually
This is most of why I’ve installed any “smart” devices in my house. If I’m up at 4am with anxiety, I can check most things that inspire it for me (are my door locks engaged, can my cameras see anything concerning, is my young kid in bed and breathing, etc.) without getting up. Some of those I can even rectify remotely; for example, I can lock my doors through the app if someone forgot to.
As a result, I’ve developed a new thing about which to worry: what have I forgotten to check?
Well you can make rules so that you can automatically rectify things without having to even check.
Then… you can worry about things you haven’t automated properly!
Yeah that tends to happen when you nurture unhealthy thoughts
No doubt!
I hope that didn’t sound too judgemental. I can’t imagine the pressure of dealing with that kind of anxiety plus the responsibility of a child. Sometimes we lose focus of what’s in front of us over what’s in our head when it should be the other way around.
Judgemental or not, you’re not wrong. Enabling one’s anxiety will not reduce said anxiety. I knew that when I set everything up and I think about it every time I check.
But I’m physically limited (not disabled, just enough to make things harder) and my general concern about the state of my home isn’t going away, so being able to check things without getting up is an immediate comfort that sometimes lets me get back to sleep more easily, even if long term it’s damaging to my psyche.
Thank you for the apology, though it was unneeded, and the empathy.